My 7/2 email to Kris and Sela

Hello,

I’ve been having some trouble reaching my mom lately.  I had a number (707-537-4277) but now am directed to a main number (707-538-8400).  Yesterday I was told that my mom was in a room with no direct phone line, which I think means that she moved rooms.  Why did she move?

I’m also wondering if we are going to reschedule her care conference.  We had one scheduled for a couple of weeks ago, but wanted to wait until her memory assessment came back from Kaiser.  My mom has left me a couple of distressing messages (fearful, etc.) but Evelyn yesterday reported that she seemed to be getting along well.  So I would appreciate your take on how she is doing as well.

I’d also like to renew my general sense that my mom may be suffering from some depression.  This perception is obviously not clinical, but I just observe that she seems generally in a low mood, often unable to take any pleasure in activities she used to enjoy, constantly exhibiting a sense of low self-worth, abandonment, helplessness and regret, as well as feeling that she is the source of others’ problems as well.  She has not always been this way – I think of her as quite social, empathic, and generally pleasant and satisfied.  I would be interested in a professional opinion on this.

Finally, I’m planning on being in Santa Rosa with my wife Christine and our son Daniel for several days starting July 22.  I’d very much like to spend some time with my Mom outside of Spring Lake Village – for instance, I’d like to take her to visit Andrew, and I’d like to take her to Grace Cathedral in SF on Sunday morning (you may already know she has a columbarium spot there).  We don’t have a specific plan yet, but I’m imagining a combination of day trips and maybe staying with us for a night or two.  We are planning to rent a house with enough bedrooms for my mom to stay, so hopefully that can be arranged.

Thanks, Rick

Call Tue 7/1 with Evelyn Mullen - Activities Director for SNF / Assisted Living / Memory Management

I spoke with Evelyn Mullen yesterday.  She said mom was adjusting pretty well to SNF, has a good group that she eats with, and eats with that group at the dining room once a week.  Evelyn also said that she (EM) was the activities director for Assisted Living and the new Memory Management unit, which is where Mom is presumably headed, so there should be good continuity there.  Evelyn and Mom have a good relationship.
I shared with Evelyn that my Mom had left two somewhat distressing messages, full of fear and abandonment.

Call from Sela - SLV will move Mom's stuff

I received a call from Sela around June 25 (can't remember exact day).  Sela said that SLV would offer to move and store Mom's stuff until the memory management unit became available, which I approved.